For several years, I’ve had the idea to do oral histories with my Grandfather, my last surviving grandparent. I’ve been hesitant and nervous because… well, for a few reasons. My family isn’t always keen to hear stories of times long ago. I also don’t want to make my Grandfather uncomfortable with the recording technology – how do I explain my idea to him so that he feels good about our exchange?

I think I hold his words so precious, and I am hoping to capture his stories in a more permanent fashion that memory alone. To have this would be a gift, but it almost feels extractive. It’s not, but it feels that way somehow… so I’m trying to explain my intention in the best way possible to him so he feels a part of the documentation process and knows my plans for what he says. If I can get over my anxieties and have this happen, what a treasure that would be!

I say this quite urgently, firstly most to myself – knowing our family histories and stories of times ago is incredibly important. Take time to listen to the elders before they are ancestors. Honor their stories, their memory, their sharing. I cherish my memories of my Grandmother, but what if I had something more concrete from when she was alive – recordings, videos…

Now, I’m not saying bombard your elder relatives with unrequested videos, but do consider what can be done to preserve their memory for yourself and for those coming after you. Knowing the stories of the neighborhood in which you reside can also be a great way to connect to people and place. Have a conversation with the older guys who hang out on the stoops in your neighborhood. You’d be surprised at what you learn, and what you might be able to share, too…